“I’ll keep you wild. You keep me safe” is an old Native American saying and Native Americans were known for their deep respect for women. The males understood the role that women should play in society, due to their feminine gifts of empathy and intuition. In return, the males fundamentally understood their role in keeping women safe.
This approach is not practised in our patriarchal world, as any woman who has been sexually harassed or assaulted by a man can attest to.
Earlier this year, while out with my dog in Vila Nova De Cerveira on the Portuguese Camino de Santiago, I took a wrong turn on an intended half-hour walk. I ended up walking through a couple of small villages and hamlets in the foothills of the mountains. So, I decided to carry on up the mountain to the stag monument that overlooks the town.
As I didn’t want to take the road, I asked a young man sat by the side of the path if he knew the best route to reach the summit. He said he didn’t know.
So I picked one and set off. He followed me.
I wasn’t worried, at first, until I stopped for a break around halfway up the mountain. He stopped and sat down beside me. Despite the fact that I hadn’t spoken another word to him, he asked if I was single. I lied and said no, my husband was going to pick me up at the top, as I watched him glance down at my ringless wedding finger.
There were around ten people at the top so I felt reassured that I was safe. As I sat humming a song under my breath, in awe of the view, I felt fingertips tracing my spine from the bottom to the top. I turned around in shock, just as he moved my hair from the side of my face. He’d silently sat behind me.
I jumped up, walked towards a couple, and asked if I could walk down with them. They gladly agreed to make sure I was safe. As soon as I was with other people, he walked off in the opposite direction.
To this day, I can’t even begin to comprehend how asking for directions led to a stranger making such an intimate gesture.
Like most women, I’ve been putting up with crap like this my whole life. I’ve seen it all, as I’ve travelled the world, and I’m fortunate not to have experienced sexual assault in my adulthood.
Which is why this quote rings true. It should be a natural instinct for men to ensure a woman feels safe in their presence instead of viewing them as a kitten pole to scratch themselves on for an ego rub or shallow sexual release.
In return, women keep them wild, and in touch with their feminine nature. Native Americans are a perfect example of how this works in society.
Yet that’s not how society rolls these days.
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