“I was once afraid of people saying “Who does she think she is?”. Now I have the courage to stand up and say “This is who I am” – Oprah Winfrey This thing called life can be tough, huh? Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, life just keeps coming back at you in the […]
Beware The Saviour Complex. There Is Only One Person That You Can Save And That Is You.
I learned this lesson the hard way by being a bit of a rescuer, especially with my romantic partners, until I finally dropped the supergirl act, and began the job of rescuing myself. My rescuer tendencies reared their head in my mid-twenties. Subconsciously, I took on responsibility for my partner at the time, as he felt […]
You Should Never Feel Ashamed, Buttercup. You Did Nothing Wrong.
In 2011, I hit rock bottom and faced ruin after experiencing severe burnout during my legal career. I left behind my homeland of the UK to begin again in Andalucia, Spain. In my first year in Spain, I found myself sitting outside a café, one day when a woman asked if she could join me. […]
6 Signs That You’ve Been Tamed.
It’s the dream, isn’t it? To live a wild and free life. Most of us feel a yearning in our heart that is the call to the wild. To create a life of freedom. Who, deep down inside, doesn’t want to be free? By freedom, I mean free from anything that isn’t in alignment with […]
What Our Gardens Should Look Like After 2020.
If the coronavirus crisis taught us anything, it’s the need to become more self-sufficient. One of the areas where we can do this is to use our gardens to grow our own food. For me, this isn’t a novel idea. While I grew up in a town, I spent my holidays with my grandma on […]
Are You Living On A Prayer? Don’t Wait With Good Intentions This New Year.
As we celebrate the end of one more year around the sun and prepare to begin anew, this is the time of the year when we all tend to set our intentions or resolutions. The promises we make to ourselves to implement the changes we need to make to get life right this time. For […]
Every Woman Wears Her Diamonds On The Inside. Here’s Why.
In the summer of 2011, I took a trip to Carcassonne in southwestern France. I was drawn to a retreat for burnt-out executives, run by a psychologist and his wife in the lead up to leaving my legal career. I recently shared my experiences of the sessions with the therapist in my post F*ck Codependency. […]